About Empathic Anger Management
Available face-to-face or on Skype
Empathic Anger Management (EAM)is a respectful therapeutic programme which involves a non-judgemental approach. Rage is understood not as an emotion in itself but as ‘a whole load of different emotions trying to get out at once’ which results from not being able to process some of life’s experiences. This puts increasing stress on the individual as more and more unprocessed life experiences build up. Often, a person is so full of unprocessed life experience (the idea of a pot, full to the brim is used) that one more thing, and it could be a very trivial thing, is the final straw and the lid flies off.
EAM offers ten one-to-one support sessions to
- clients learn how to process their life experience through talking about significant life events (may be from childhood or adulthood) that they may not yet have been able to come to terms with e.g. bereavement, divorce, losses of other kinds, trauma, disappointments, illnesses, accidents or abuse
- improve assertiveness skills so clients are better able to identify and ask directly for what they want
- learn how to make better use of the support that is available to them from people in theirlife or to find a new source of support
The Empathic Anger Management programme is sensitive to the trauma and unprocessed feelings which underlie rage and acknowledges how a lack of assertiveness skills can contribute to it.
Empathic Anger Management Process There is an initial session where client and therapist get to know each other a little, I introduce the programme and invite clients to identify any life events that they may not have been able to talk or feel through that are in their pot and which, with their agreement, we contract together to work with.
Each following session includes the
- ‘here-and-now’ elements of how the week has been in terms of anger management
- monitoring of the development of assertiveness skills
- ‘there-and-then’ element where we debrief and process one past personal event at a time.
Typically, even after the first session a client will say “I have never told anyone about that before” and express some immediate relief about having done so.
EAM Package
Ten x fifty minute weekly sessions @ £45 per session (includes a brief, jointly written report if requested).
A client does not not completely empty their ‘pot’ during the ten sessions but they will learn how to
- speak about life experiences in a way that prevents further build up of unprocessed experience
- to ask for what they want in a straight way and
- make better use of the support that is available to them
